Unspoken Words
My father and me.
Dear Dad,
Too often things are left unsaid between fathers and sons. My inability to say it and show it doesn’t lessen the admiration, respect, and love that I have for you as a father and a friend. I wanted you to know this.
Thank you for everything you've done for me. Growing up, you were my superhero - the one who could fix anything, or any situation. You were patient, rarely frustrated. You just kept believing in me, even when I doubted myself. You taught me to throw a baseball, to fish, to ski, to appreciate the outdoors, to change a tire, to take down a tree, to solder a pipe … you taught me how to be a man.
Looking back, I realize all the sacrifices you made to give us a good life. The extra hours you worked, but always seeming to be there when we needed you. But it wasn't just about providing things, it was also about creating a safe space for me to fail, and to grow through your support and encouragement.
My brother and I gatherering wood for the fireplace while learning the value of hard work.
More than anything, thank you for being you. From you I learned the value of hard work, the importance of honesty, and how to find the strength to face your fears. You showed me how to be a good person, a kind soul, and someone who always stands up for what they believe in. I respect you more than you know. You're the one I always looked up to, the one I wanted to be like when I grew up. There are some things in particular that you taught me that continue to resonate for me as an adult:
Family is always first. Life can be hard, and you’ll need friends and support along the way. The best support network is your family. Be there for them, and rely on them when you need help.
Be your own person. Everyone’s path is different, so find yours even if it means blazing a new trail.
My dad, making his own waves.
Character counts the most. If you’re going to be the best at anything, be the best person you can be.
Accept and appreciate hardship. Good times are enjoyable while they last, but tough times create character and memories.
Dogs are good for the soul. Treat them well and they will return the favor in kind.
My dad, hiking with my dog many years ago.
Any job worth doing, is a job worth doing right. Don’t take shortcuts.
Try to look for the simple solutions. Life is rarely as complicated as it seems. There are few things worth building that can’t be built with 2”x4”s and duct tape.
My brother and I on one of our dad’s awesome contraptions - a gravity powered go cart built with scrap wood.
Stress is optional. We’re but small cogs in the greater wheel, don’t sweat the small stuff and focus on the priorities.
Live below your means. You never know what’s to come, so save for tomorrow.
Be willing to take risks. The rewards in life are often achieved at the margins of safety.
Riding one of my dad’s homemade thrill rides. Some of these did not end well, but they always made memories.
Where there’s a will, there’s a way. You’re dreams are achievable if you really want to go after them.
Lastly, nothing in life gets done without a plan and a list.
My dad in his younger years being awesome.
Thanks for being, and continuing to be, the best father a boy could ever hope for. And thank you for being the best role model and mentor to this father. You’ve showed me what it is to be a great dad, and that is perhaps the best gift a father can give a son. I only hope that I can be half the dad to my kids that you have been to me.
Happy Father’s Day!
Love,
Mike
My dad being a great father to me and my brother.
